He who has not been a determined accuser during prosperity should hold his peace in adversity. He alone who denounces the success has a right to proclaim the justice of the downfall.
— Victor Hugo, Les Miserables

Who knows how easily ambition disguises itself under the name of a calling, possibly in good faith and deceiving itself, in sanctimonious confusion?
— Victor Hugo, Les Miserables

How to Help Your Children Develop Their Own Convictions

Many Christian parents today want to make sure that their children develop their own faith. We know that children who grow up in a Christian home often do not follow Christ when they leave the home. They conformed to the family's faith while at home, but did not own it for themselves.


So what can we do as parents to help our children develop their own convictions? How can we help them to learn to seek the Lord directly and understand his will for their lives? Watch this short video to learn how to avoid common mistakes and develop important biblical assumption in your children's thinking. This is Part 9 of the video series How to Help Your Children Become Self Motivated.

How to Stop Arguing with Your Children


Sometimes I am in the middle of an argument with one of my children before I even realize what is happening! How did this happen?

How can I make sure I am having a fruitful conservation with my kids instead of an argument. I can do this by operating according to this biblical principle: Correction can take the form of discipleship instead of discipline when there is respect and teachability.

In this video I explain how to apply this principle to conversations with your children and stop the arguing! This is part 8 of the series How to Help Your Children Become Self-Motivated. 

Merry Christmas! *2017 Year in Review*

We are so grateful to the Lord for his faithfulness to us in 2017! We had a big year. Here are a few of the highlights:

  • We put on our first Marriage Conference through Truth to Freedom [March].
  • Bethany graduated from high school [May].
  • I accepted the invitation to serve as president for North Carolinians for Home Education [June].
  • Bethany, Caleb, Josiah and I went on a mission trip to the Dominican Republic [July].
  • Bethany's team won the 2017 National Youth Club Championship in ultimate frisbee in Minnesota [August]!
  • Our family took a month long camping trip out West. As far northwest as Yellowstone and as far southwest as the Grand Canyon [September].
  • I finished writing my first book, Loving God: A Practical Handbook for Discipleship. It will be available next month [October]!
  • We enjoyed Thanksgiving with Dad and Mom, my brother Michael's whole family, and my sister Anna's family [November].
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When Should You Give Your Children More Freedom?

Photo by Bruno Nascimento on Unsplash

As our children grow up, one thing you can be sure to expect is that they will desire more freedom. An immediate difficulty we face is the common misunderstand of what freedom is and how one obtains it. Our culture teaches us (and maybe it is a natural assumption) that freedom is our ability to do whatever we want and that freedom is our inherent right. These things are not true. 

As you struggle with your pre-teens and teens in their fight for freedom, do you know how to teach them the true meaning of freedom and the legitimate way of obtaining it? Watch this brief video to learn more about the biblical economy of freedom and responsibility. This is Part 7 in the video series How to Help Your Children Become Self-Motivated.

When "Because I Said So" Isn't Good Enough

The most popular question that my children to ask is "Why?" I have to admit that I have allowed this question to irritate me at times. Often the best answer is "Because I said so." However, it doesn't work all the time. If we are working to raise our children to be mature, Christ loving believers, then we are going to have to come up with a better answer. We are going to have to tell they why.

Photo by Gaelle Marcel on Unsplash

Photo by Gaelle Marcel on Unsplash

Part of being mature is being self-motivated. The key to being self-motivated, as opposed to only being driven by outside forces, is to know the "why" of what we are doing. We must understand the heart and purpose of our actions. 

One of the most important roles we play as parents is to help our children develop a biblical worldview in which the "why" questions are answered from God's perspective. Check out Part 6 of my video series How to Help Your Children Become Self-Motivated to dig a little deeper into how we can give our children the "whys" of the Christian life.